Help! Boyfriend too gentle
My lover has had a large number of lovers - he comes from the swinging community. He's very gentle in the bedroom. It's beautiful and sweet, but at some point I want him to just take over and take me over!
He won't lead. He's mentioned wanting to "unleash the animal inside" but we both have no idea how to get him to do it. He's had very much reinforcement to be gentle.
Suggestions to get him to open up?