In the beginning did it start with you dating both. Or was one added years later... How did that effect the time and attention split ...who paid the cost?...equally shared?
Would you like more time and attention from your husband or a greater place in his heart? What are looking for from him?
Do you think he's being a vindictive prick ? Is he capable of such behavior?
In the beginning was it easy or difficult to negotiate the boundaries of this dynamic with him. Was there any trouble with violations of said boundaries?