"We" refers to MrPOd and I.
"In terms of time split I was specifically thinking about how much time you spent with each partner in the beginning and if that's changed over the years. And how that split looks today. And with your husbands shift in feelings and attitude does that play apart in how you allot time. "
During the length of my marriage, I've been spending less time with my husband and more time with my bf and gf. This change wasn't something that I wanted and I do think that my husband doesn't feel as strongly for me as I do for him.