Originally Posted by sage
It does sound to me that your situation is more lust driven than love driven, but that doesn't make it any easier to deal with for you. There is really very little you can do than be open to the feelings that come up for you and work through them with these people, one at a time.
This part of ur message left me thinking - what might be the basis on which u might have suemised thus, since i know that it is not lust driven,atleast in my husband's or cousin's case and I know too mych about them to think otjerwise. then i realised that my intro and the abruptness with which i brought in my hubby/s suggestion was wrong and it needed more background information, which I am planning to write sometime.