Originally Posted by Shizuma
I finally did talk to my wife about poly. After she'd had the chance to think about poly on her own, without anyone pushing her, she'd come to the conclusion that she can live with it. It helps that she can understand my feelings for J and could imagine more than friendship with both J and her wife.
Thanks for posting! A few clarificatory questions are in order: When your wife says she can live with poly, what exactly does that mean? Is she mono herself? Is she willing to tolerate it rather than lose you, or does she see it enhancing her own life in any way? Is she interested either in J or her wife? Are they interested in her? What kind of relationship do you have in mind? Is J's wife mono? Does she know of the situation between you and J?