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Old 01-08-2012, 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted by avoidscauliflour View Post
I'm new here - and identify as mono to boot, so maybe this opinion is not welcome but I wanted to offer a different point of view on his use of possessive language.
Your opinion is definitely welcome. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

We often use language poorly, without precision. And, you're correct that we often use stand-in concepts for what we really mean not thinking about the deep meaning of what is said.

One of the many reasons why communication is so difficult.

On the other hand, we do live in a heavily mysogonist, patriarchal environment that encourages such distainful notions for men in particular. But, also women have corresponding expectations that are equally as corrosive.

Picking through whether the dominant norm is operating or something else entirely requires lots of committed communication.
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