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Old 01-08-2012, 04:59 AM
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Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat View Post
The other component is that abused people don't always realize they're in abusive relationships, especially with emotional/psychological abuse. Throw that into a BDSM scenario, and it easily enables the abuser to say "this is just part of our S&M play" and for the low self-esteem victim to believe him, despite her feelings that this is wrong or unpleasant.
This.

The general distinction in my opinion would be that in a functional D/s relationship the humiliation and power play should be empowering and a positive experience for all parties concerned. If she doesn't seem happy, that would be a huge red flag for me.

I think you should address the issue.

What does your wife think about the situation?

I think it's a good thing you bring this up.
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