I think when you cant find the perfect person...you may be apt to having your cake and eating to.
You found the perfect woman for you.
I suppose if i could have it all in one man and he were monogamous and prefered me to be monagamous...Being that I am less dominant than most... I would probably be happy to comply.. But we shall see if that ever happens and how I will be able to address it.. Would love to report back here with that info.
Would my ideals prevail?? Or would I just go back to the norm?
Oh and Mono..I know how you feel.. I felt that way once also. That was also very "ideal" but my love was not nurtured and ...walla...here i am.