I'm sorry that the responses have hurt Armani. Everything on a public forum should be taken with a grain of salt. What people are posting here is based on a little snippet of your life filtered through your own experience while you were writing it and then filtered again through the reader's experience before they respond to it. Poly has this way of bringing into sharp focus every little imperfection in a relationship. All of this should simply be seen as an oportunity to grow and learn about each other and how each other ticks. This kind of thing doesn't happen overnight (gernerally). For most of us it's 2 steps forward and one step back. Be kind to yourselves. You're likely both going to say things to each other and do things that you'll look back on and know it wasn't the best thing to say or do. Take care.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.