Good for you!
I totally get where you're coming from- we're the same way with "As long as the three of us know and agree with what's going on, that's what's important!" and I'm usually a-ok with that, but I'll admit I felt validated when I found stuff in the Definitions thread that described our situation EXACTLY. It's hard not to have moments of questioning or doubt when you're doing something other than the mainstream, especially when someone you feel you should be listening to is bringing up those questions and doubts, so those times of "Oh look, other people do this! It CAN work!" are important too.