Originally Posted by rolypoly
bookworm, I'm curious to know what specifically changed within your relationships when you changed who was primary/secondary?
Amount of time spent together? How much/whether or not you say I love you? Living arrangements? Talk of children? ??
Me, too, curious. How does it work? How can you tell who's primary and who's secondary? I can understand if you live with someone, it's probably pretty clear, but if you don't.... How do people define this?
I don't live with anyone, so I think my definition of primary has to do with the level of attachment, trust, disclosure, etc. but I'm not sure I could just choose to put someone at one level or another.