I'm completely new to all this, and so are my two men. My current bf just said to me tonight, 'it's not like you're want to go off and fuck some random guy.' Because the other guy is a guy we have both known and loved for years. That is a lot different, but I think it speaks to the not-weirdness of wanting to know the other guy. He'd be much more upset if I was making out with strangers at weddings.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)