@redpepper, I was reading your Poly Lessons Learned thread and you mentioned depth in relationships. That stuck a chord. As a non-live-in secondary, I wonder where this relationship is going and if/how more depth can be achieved.
Traditional primary relationships have the typical options like buying a house, getting married, having children, planning a retirement together, etc. Those are not my foreseeable future in this relationship. I am happy to throw out the old traditions, but I’d like something else to look forward to. Hey, if we really make a go at this we might..……do something great together. Sadly, my imagination is lacking.
What are some ways primaries have taken their secondary relationship to the next level? How do other secondaries build depth after the NRE is gone?