Originally Posted by Bricklie
The most important thing, I think, is to create a firmament in your pain. You have to separate pain from pain so it stops all looking the same--it comes in flavors. Pain of being without this one guy can come from your own personal hungers that he may not be able to cure.
One has to ask oneself why one fell in love with a guy who cannot provide the normal boyfriend stuff. I personally hate this question, but it's a necessary one.
I agree that sorting out the exact sources of the pain will make it easier to communicate with my SO and, frankly, with myself. Sorting out the exact sources of my love is a lot harder. I try to keep my filters up and choose my partners well, but love does not make that easy!