thank you for your comments. a lot of what you said does ring true for me. i admit that i am not always the best as expressing what i need, mostly out of fear of being seen as uncooperative, unfeeling, and just plain selfish. but honestly, i have gotten to the point that i really don't care how i am seen because my needs are not getting met so that everyone else's can be and that is just plain not fair.
it is not so much that she made the posting; i completely understand why she did it. there are often times that we just simply do not feel we can talk to each other about things and having someone/somewhere to just put it out there is very important. i am upset that she didn't let me know i guess...and according to her "we don't keep secrets."
thanks again for the insight...