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Old 01-04-2012, 09:54 PM
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Yup. Wanting x for yourself can be perfectly ok (as long as you're willing to pursue it with patience and kindness and respect). Not wanting your partner to have x can be perfectly ok (if you're willing to consider their needs and try your best to meet them before you say no... again, patience, kindness, respect). But you can't insist on both without acting like a manipulative jerkface. X in this case is outside heterosexual liaisons, in case that wasn't abundantly clear.

This isn't a case of boundaries. This is a case of acting from a place of hypocritical self-interest. Imho.

Why is what he wants the only thing that matters here???

Edit: Amended to be very slightly less harsh.
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