Gotcha. So, in the cases where the woman turns out to be straight, is she interested in your husband, or actually just interested in hanging and being friends (I assume someone wouldn't agree to a date if they just didn't like either of you period) and not interested in sex with either of you at all?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.