Originally Posted by BFTrick
So my gf and her bf (the other side of the vee) decided that they would write each other's resolutions the new year. They are also the ones to be held accountable to should the other person not work on their resolution.
They have been dating longer, they live together, and they are more intimate with each other so it makes sense... but it still sucks. It would have been nice if I could have created say one resolution (of the three). She did go as far as to say that she would be willing to hold me accountable for my resolutions.
I plan on telling her that I'm a little jealous of their intimacy. I understand that they are closer but it would have been nice to be included. I hope that someday I can be as close to her as he is.
I can't think of anything worse than someone telling me what to work on for the next year. Mind you, since they're not coming up with it for themselves, they're more likely to fail since there's no personal investment in it for them.
If I was you, I'd be glad that I wasn't a part of this co-dependent behaviour.
Do you really want someone else to tell you how you should improve yourself for the next year or do you think that's something that you should do for yourself? Because it doesn't sound intimate to me, it sounds controlling.