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Old 01-03-2012, 07:30 AM
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Originally Posted by Anyonebutme View Post
I have tried to talk to my hubby, but as he is from a very conservative family he is not comfortable talking about it. I have tried to tell him what i like etc, but most of the times he just doesnt wanna have sex. So anything after that is not possible. ... it has reduced from twice a week to once a fortnight.

he thinks sex is not that important for the relationship.
Well, don't give up, hon! Get him to talk! Marriages crumble and fall apart when couples don't communicate!

Don't accept his conservative upbringing as an excuse. Tell him how important it is to you, how unhappy you are, get into therapy, see a medical doctor to have his testosterone levels checked, do everything you can. You don't want to let it get so bad you "have to" cheat. Don't stop talking just because he doesn't want to. Sex is too important a part of relationships to just let things slide and be miserable. And it's obvious you are miserable.
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