Do you know why he is not ok with you seeing other men? Insecurity, jealousy, feeling inadequate? He needs to be able to tell you why - and you need to be able to hear his reasons why. (That last bit can be hard.) If he needs some more time to get more comfortable with the idea, well that seems reasonable. A month is not a long time and, as you know from your experience, poly can be a difficult thing to wrap one's mind around. But if he never wants to allow you to see other men, ever, that is unfair - no matter who's paying.
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