@bookbug, the other gf’s and I are cool and enjoy spending time together, but I don’t know that I would describe us as close. It’s possible they already know my struggles as information flows pretty freely through the group. They have primaries, so I don’t know what they could offer, but it never hurts to ask. It’s a little strange though, since they are part of my group and I’m talking about possibly ending a relationship with someone we all love. I’m sure they would be supportive, regardless.
@opalescent, I am okay with searching for additional partners while in a relationship with my SO. You are actually touching on what redpepper said above. Would you have been okay with SW leaving you if he found a monogamous primary? You may have been, and that’s great, it’s just disorienting to me.
I suspect that I would be just fine as a limited secondary if I had a primary. But maybe I’m only envisioning the ideal and not the reality. Sounds good, anyway. I’m glad it works for you.