Mintcar, have you had a look at some of the other threads here on secondaries? You will find quite a few if you go to the search engine on the toolbar and press tags. There are a number of threads tagged "secondary" "secondaries" "hierarchy" "primary/secondary" and many others. Have a look, maybe someone's story or thoughts will give you an idea on what you can do to improve your situation.
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