What's all this "until" business? Make yourself a primary "until" you find someone else...
Make yourself your own primary PERMANENTLY. Always be at the top of the list of people you love. Anything else is codependency. This comes back to the notion that you have to truly "be" happy single... not just faking it so you can trick potential partners into thinking you've got your life together.
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).
The most dangerous phrase in the English language is "we've always done it this way."