Originally Posted by geminigirl
One final word: become your own best friend, your own primary partner, and love yourself as much as you would a partner. This can help a lot with figuring out and fulfilling needs. Many needs we have are actually best fulfilled by ourselves and not a partner (surprise!) so the gift of time alone is actually very precious.
Being unsatisfied as a secondary seems not so different from being unsatisfied with singledom. You need your life to be fulfilling and satisfying in and of yourself, not tied to being partnered to someone. When you have that, then your relationship status will only enhance your life, instead of trying to give it meaning.