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Old 12-29-2011, 07:30 PM
peace355 peace355 is offline
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Default Advice on New relationship

Hi I'm new to forums and pretty new to open relationships. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years, living together 4 and last year we opened up our relationship. I've been having some jealousy issues recently and not sure where to go from here.

Since we opened up the relationship he was with an old friend of his from home the two times during the year he went home and I was was with an old friend last time I visited home as well. He also was with a work friend once. I didn't have any problems with that. Then I met a guy, we slept together but then I wanted to just keep it as friends so we meet sometimes for coffee/drinks and text each other but no sex.

Around the same time I introduced my boyfriend to my work friend and they really hit it off. They both checked with me if it was okay to take things further than friendship, and I said it was fine but I guess I was surprised at how much further its gone. I assumed that they'd be a friends with benefits the odd time but actually he sleeps over once a week and then they meet for a daytime meeting maybe once or twice a week. I was also a bit thrown that when they meet up even during the day that they don't just hang out like friends they are more couple like, they hold hands, cuddle up to each other. They also text each other every day.

I've been trying not to let it bother me, but its been two months now since they first hooked up and I still feel uncomfortable. My boyfriend has said its understandable to feel a bit jealous but also that I have to realise that him and this girl are a separate thing it doesn't change how he feels about me and maybe I am crossing boundaries by concerning myself about him and this girl because it is not my place to define their relationship.

I have to say I'm still friends with this girl and really have no problem with her, just uncomfortable with my boyfriend being so close with someone else.

I must say also I really happy with the time I spend with my boyfriend, am I being unfair on him (and the girl) if I want him to cool things off with her somewhat? Any advice, on how I could maybe kerb my jealousy and be more supportive of this second relationship?
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