@wildflowers - I get where you're coming from, and I wasn't really upset at her reaction, I just feel like she could have worded it a bit more kindly. The next few comments she made about the trip were that 4 nights on an air mattress were more than enough and that even though she'd love to spend more time with her family, she was sooo ready to come home. I suppose I just felt a little put out that her bed seemed to rank higher in the 'things I missed' category than I did, too. lol
As for defining the relationship... I know that isn't going to happen. I've accepted it, but every once in a while my discomfort of not knowing where I stand creeps back in. For now, I am trying to follow the advice of enjoying the journey without worrying about the destination.