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Old 12-28-2011, 06:42 PM
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@Park -- My advice would be to ask her to work on dissecting her feelings and getting more comfortable, with the goal of giving you the same freedom you've given her within a broad timeline (4 months?). Its not necessarily reasonable, fair, or possible to ask her to get over her fear/jealousy/insecurity right away, but my perspective is that she should be putting in the emotional work necessary for you and the gf to eventually have the alone time and one-on-one connection that is (imho) essential for a serious relationship. Step one is figuring out why she feels this way. It will probably require some deep digging and long conversations.
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The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.
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