I personally find the differences of "Love" and "In Love" depend
I can see that someone could love another even if that other doesn't
exactly feel the same way. Not a bad thing I suppose unless the other
completely rejects the feelings and sees it as something to be
purged by fire or something. That just seems like a waste of energy
better spent on someone who at least appreciates the sentiment.
Being "in love" to me implies that both parties feel "Love" for one another
That being said, I may actually love someone at the moment.
Even though I have only known her for a couple of months
and she's leaving the country next month, we have
spent some quality time together. But what I think might be the
biggest factor when thinking about if I love this person is the
empathy and compassion I have for her.
She's opened up to me about a past boyfriend's...how to put it
delicately...undesired sexual assertiveness? As such, she
lives with a constant fear of repetition and has trust issues (understandably)
but when she told me I could see the hurt and tears in her eyes
and I felt for her to point where I was on the verge of tears myself.
The amount of time I think isn't as important as the quality.
I usually take the "Quality over Quantitiy" approach.
I'm rather empathetic to people. I know I'm not the only person in
the world and as such I do my best to see things from others point
of view and better understand folks. And a little compassion can
go a long way.
I dunno, maybe I'm just a loving person. I've been a hateful person
before and it sucked. It was like ingesting poison and hoping
someone else will suffer from it. Really pointless.