Is "romantic" love in fact stronger than "family" love? Would a parent reliably choose the life of their partner over the life of their child?
Poly has not suddenly come along and changed romantic love. The idea of nonmonogamy is far from new, poly is just a more honest and egalitarian way to think about it. And it's a tiny movement -- people are still free to be monogamous and most are (in theory, if you don't count cheating, divorce and remarriage, etc.).
If you knew us and our stories, you would know that we love with the same intensity that monogamous people do, and treat our love as just as special.
Is there anything other than your own theory about how love works that makes you think that poly love is less special? Have you ever known a poly person personally or been in a poly relationship? I'm still very curious and don't feel as if my question had been answered in terms of what brought you here. Did you just read about poly somewhere and decide to put in your two cents?
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.