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Old 12-22-2011, 08:14 AM
melblankenship melblankenship is offline
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Default Need some advice..

I had never heard the term polyamory before I met my husband. As soon as I met him and we talked about his past and how he was wired, I immediately began reading everything I could get my hands on. The concepts and things that I read about rang very true for me. We talked about what we wanted and what we were interested in and realized that we both agreed. We were both interested in a triad if we happened to meet a girl that we were both interested in. About a year after we had made this decision we met her. She is witty and sexy and we are both attracted to her and are both falling for her. My problem at this point is two fold (even though they are kind of related). The first issue is that she is newly bisexual and has almost no experience with women. She is very hesitant with me sexually. I realize that this may be that this is just a new thing for her, but it is starting to be really frustrating. I have tried to talk to her about it and she continues to say that she is going to work on it, that she wants to give more, but she just doesn't know how. My issue is that is has now been several months and it doesn't seem to be getting any better. My second issue is partially tied with my first. While I logically have no issues with my husband being with her, (we have some experience swinging and I have never had an issue with him being sexually involved with anyone else), I have had some issues with how sexually compatable they are. My husband thinks it is because I am not being satisfied with her. I am not sure how to describe what I am feeling, I don't think it is jealousy, (even though it may be, I have never really experienced jealousy before). I am curious if anyone else has dealt with any of this. I know I am kind of rambling but I would really appreciate any feed back here!! Thanks!!
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