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Old 12-21-2011, 01:20 PM
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Another term to explore at some point -- commitment. What does commitment mean to him and to you? Why *wouldn't* you make a commitment, nominal or otherwise, to someone even if you were then going to bone other people, perhaps a bunch of them? After all, that's what people in open relationships and swingers do, and it seems to work for many of them.

Is "commitment" exclusivity, focus, promises kept, a shared future? Only the first definition would preclude sex with others, though the second definition could arguably be somewhat compromised by sexual non-monogamy depending on how you conducted yourself.

Though of course, as others have pointed out, poly is not primarily, or sometimes at all, about sex.
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