Originally Posted by angel32
maybe I'm just over-reacting...
Nope. How he treats others is indicative of how he will treat you, eventually. When you're no longer new and shiny.
It sounds to me he's lacking in empathy. He shouldn't have to understand WHY you need this courtesy you feel you need at this point. All he needs to understand is that its important to YOU. Deep down, he doesn't care. He doesn't care about pain and suffering he puts others through. Not saying he's a bad person, but a person who can't empathize (understand viscerally how their actions affect others) is likely to hurt others at some point in time.
These may be red flags for your own relationship with him.