From my thread, "Paradigm Shift to Polyamory"
I thought this reply deserved its own string. Where I was asked this question and I confronted it with honesty, but I'd like other perspectives. I really liked Mono's response here. (and I just realized the play off of my name sounds like I'm really mono as well, but I know for sure that I am not).
So here is the question again:
"What does a single gal like me get out of dating a married man like you?"
Mono wrote on my thread:
This is a hell of a good question. I would be prepared to offer something that makes sense. Considering probably 90% of the world practices monogamy of some sort and has the expectations of mono relationships, a little development in your arguments would be highly advised.
What does a married guy offer to a single gal?
Will she feel comfortable bringing you home to meet her parents?
Are you going to give her the security of a marraige type relationship if she wants it?
Will you give her children?
Will you be proud and open about her and is she free to be with you openly?
Will she have a secretive relationship similar to an affair and only known to you and your wife?
What besides sex and occassional dates are you going to offer her?
Not to sound harsh, but really, for most of the single female population (especially the younger population) a married guy does apparently have little to offer. And so the debate begins