Heh, love the dramatic intro. Good on you for choosing honesty in the end and for getting help with the depression. You're right to give it time. Settle back into life with your wife, show her how much you love her. Then baby steps.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.