Originally Posted by grim64
Maybe the idea of us all together is completely crazy but as 2 of the three in this want that to at least try and happen I have to see how it goes.....
Sorry, but I have to say: This isn't a question of democratic majority. If one person in your equation isn't happy and the others say "Well, let's go with it, we are two and we think this should work, so suck it up and try." You failed big time in regard to what a relationship should provide for all persons involved. Your wife has the same right to feel happy and fulfilled in her relationship as you want to be. And from what you described, she doesn't seem to be on the same page.
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.