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Old 12-13-2011, 03:05 AM
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Last week he was being very affectionate with me so I was just going with it because I love seeing him happy and today he tells me that meant a lot to him because he's been worried I am not attracted to him anymore ... I feel so weak and scared... I'm so sad.
Can't you see how "just going with it" instead of being honest is NOT the loving thing to do, for both yourself and him? You're being cruel by not coming clean, really. Geez, get it over with and you won't feel so burdened. You are making talking about the truth of a situation more scary than it has to be, but you're only protecting yourself by not telling him, you're not doing him any favors. If you really love him, you shouldn't be manipulating him like this. Time to grow up and get real, hon!
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