Originally Posted by redpepper
He doesn't seem all that into you for the long haul. I am not so sure that a poly relationship can be considered a long term serious relationship when its ones first. I would think at his age and stage, being monogamous that he would do better to find a mono woman.
This is the fundamental reason (what Mono said about it too) that things didn't go anywhere with my Other Guy from my first post on this forum.
He has never been in a "serious" relationship before, where he could bring someone home to his family for the holidays, etc. And he wants kids, which I would not be prepared to do even if I WEREN'T married to someone else. He saw a poly relationship as having "no future" - none for HIM that is, according to the life-script he felt compelled to follow.