Originally Posted by Nzlovergirl
In terms of disrespect: he does not disrespect my husband. He jsut does not talk about him and when i do, he listens and says nothing.)
Sorry but I was going off your previous statement which said "But the husband? I hate him and he is the enemy"
To me that is disrespect of the highest order. I'm sorry if this is not what he actually said. He is young and this is his first serious relationship and it's poly? I'm sorry again, but I see a lot of warnings here. Even if he manages to get over his internal issues he'll have to deal with a lot of external ones related to peer pressure and disaproval.
You're in a tuff spot but I wish you well.