Context is probably needed here. Does one or more of the four of you feel like the long-distance, could-maybe-become-a-couple pair needs to get to a certain point before the close-by, fast-becoming-a-couple pair can move forward? If so, why? If not, there's no reason to go slower than the commonsense guidelines for dealing with nre like a sane person with other obligations would normally dictate.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.