Thread: Would you go?
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Old 12-12-2011, 01:48 AM
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Originally Posted by caragh87 View Post
I would ideally love to spend some time on Christmas with my partner, but I don't love that A) They don't know we are poly and B) That I just can't shake this feeling that I am not wanted.

So if this was you in this situation, would you suck it up and spend time with your partner? Or would you give it a miss because of the awarkwardness?
Eh, I never get too misty-eyed about dumb holiday "obligations," so if I didn't really wanna go, I wouldn't. Sure, it would be nice to be with your bf on Christmas, but maybe you can spend time with him before or after, or earlier in the day, and forget all that nonsense and trying to interpret people's kisses and hugs - Blech! Who needs it. If you want to spend Christmas in a way that is special and meaningful to you, create the day you want and invite people you enjoy being with to come along.
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