I've been reading this forum for a while, but finally registered and am ready to contribute!
I'm 33, bi, living in Seattle, and have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. We have been in an open relationship since the very beginning, with him interested more in one- or two-night-stands, while I've had some very delightful FWB's.
However, in the last 6 months or so, BF has been having an ongoing "thing" that has been difficult for me to adjust to. I'm very communicative and want everything in the open, whereas he is very private and subscribes to a DADT policy (we call it out-of-sight, out-of-mind, which actually isn't true in my case). I'm having a hard time getting a grip on what kind of relationship they are having, and his reluctance to define things vs. my need for transparency has been frustrating for both of us.
Additionally, I started seeing someone about 3 months ago who I am starting to have much stronger feelings for than I have for anyone other than my BF. He is in a poly marriage, and I've not only really enjoyed getting to know him, but also to view a well-functioning poly life at work.
Anyway, the gist of this long-windedness is that it seems BF and I are evolving out of a sexually open situation and into something that feels more like polyamory, and I anticipate the transition will be complex. I am determined to navigate the waters with honesty and grace, and am hoping to glean some great advice and support from all you lovely people.
This is an amazing resource, and I'm grateful to have found it