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Old 12-08-2011, 07:28 AM
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Originally Posted by riftara View Post
This is my specific situation - i get full blown panic attacks AFTER they have sex, during doesnt bother me, just after. the only thing that makes them go away is meds - which im already abusing, or them coming back to our neutral space, which limits their alone time. i offered a compromise but it was shot down. a slow move toward them having more alone time by lengthing the time the spend alone after sex little by little. Sorta wean me off the panic attacks. I dont know what to do.
But what are you panicking about? Deconstructing the panic, I think, would be a good start. What thoughts do you have when it is starting, and how can you reframe your thinking on whatever it is you're reacting to? I think your panic is your responsibility, not theirs.
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