thank you for your reply Rarechild..
I guess I am really trying to be patient, and help him learn about how I love others and that he is one that has grabbed a piece of my heart..
I am comitted to working through it with him and also my husband. Im jsut lost as he doesnt understand alot of what i say in terms of how i can love him and my hubby.. I think he is rather possessive and wants me to himself, but knows that this cannot be. Hence, the half a relationship comment??