Hmm, well the thing is I'm having difficulty figuring out how to get him to discuss what he wants out of our relationship and the other relationships we have. How do you get to the point where your partner will do that without having to force the issue?
I would like a relationship where I don't feel like I'm bait to be used to bring other girls in, and to have some deeper relationships with my partners. I would at some point like to be poly (with a primary) and have some partners we share and some we don't. He would like to not acknowledge what he wants using words. But he'd like to go out on some dates alone... and have sex with some people alone.
But you know, 'let's not talk about it'.