Originally Posted by rory
what if the best thing to do is to drop the the notion of equality/fairness altogether?
Equality/fairness includes assumption of entitlement. It will no longer be my aim. When a partner of mine tells me they want or need something, I will make it a priority (again, not the but a priority), as I always do. I will try to focus on that more, and only worry about fairness if somebody else expresses that something is unfair to them.
Beautiful! Really, this could be a "poly lessons" essay, very important stuff that we all need to at least be reminded of now and then.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.