Originally Posted by BigGuy
ANYTHING of an emotional nature is considered too messy and best left unsaid.
This is where I wouldn't do well with most DADT situations. I become very fearful if there is shit going on that people aren't telling me. Even if its negative. I would rather have it out and get to the bottom of it than hold it in and know someone else is too. How am I suppose to support and be supported by those I love if the DADT rules are so huge? DADT seems like an all or nothing thing to most people. I don't think it has to be or should be actually. Its all negotiable, just like anything in poly really. Ya, I would rather not tell people about my sex life or how I privately feel about some people, but to not even divulge who I am seeing intimately is just not going to work for me. Good to know about myself I reckon.