No judgments assumed, and you may well be right!
My comment about it maybe meaning that I'm ready to renegotiate our boundaries stems from the anger I felt towards Davis at the end of the dream. I think that it does make me feel dishonest to not tell Davis about my crush on Jay, and that maybe I've held off on telling him because I feel like it's "wrong" to have this crush when pursuing it would be breaking our boundaries. And so I'm annoyed at him on a certain level because the boundary is at his request and I don't like feeling like my feelings are wrong. It's kind of silly I guess, you can be on a diet and not be "wrong" for having a chocolate craving.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.