Well, since this has nothing to do with polyamory, I don't know if I will continue posting here.
My wife is in a much better mood since it's nearly Christmas and New Years, and most of our friends and family will be together. She hasn't been like this since before the stroke.
We went on a little trip last week and had a relatively thoughtful discussion. Something that she really needed was to get out of the house. We actually got pretty physical with each other which is always appreciated.
I understand that this is probably temporary elation but we're enjoying it. We've had more emotional bonding this past week than we've had for the past year.
Anyway, I thought I'd gush a little and throw out another "thank you" for your advice.