With all due respect to Manno as he certainly has free reign over answering your questions, I just wanted to let you know that there is a lot of stuff people have posted that could help you get your questions answered.
Perhaps if you don't find specific answers you might like to start your own thread? I certainly would be willing to give my two cents as I have been living poly for sometime and have a child ... Etc.
Have a good read. See you when you have caught up!
Back to you Manno.Sorry for the hyjack