While I don't see DADT as a method to create greater connection in a primary relationship I also don't discount it as a coping method either. To me it is like declaring an "open relationship" that does not include communication about some things that happen. I think if people are at a stalemate in trying to get needs met then maybe it is the only option.
But what happens when one partner wants a DADT to open up the relationship and the other wants more disclosure and communication? What compromises are made then?
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